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Weekend Warriors

May 24, 2009 · 2 Comments

by Danielle

Dan just finished his last class until mid-June and although he has a few papers to write, we’re eager to have him more available for family time. This weekend was the first in recent memory where we did not have committments, school-related or otherwise.

Saturday started off bright and sunny, but by the time Rachel had a whopper nap it was gray, cold and rainy. Our friend Jamie told us about a kid-friendly restaurant (with high chairs-very rare here) in Republique, so we hopped a bus and in less than ten minutes we were in Belgian-themed Leon de Bruxelles.  What is Belgian food, you might ask? Mainly frites (french fries), mussels (prepared about ten different ways) and waffles (with a zillion combos of ice cream toppings). Oh, and beer. The place was full of families and it was nice to enjoy a meal and not be paranoid about making a lot of noise or disturbing other people.

Sunday we metroed to the edge of town to the Bois de Vincennes, a gorgeous park with four lakes, a zoo, a farm, floral gardens, playgrounds, and an enormous 12th century chateau. It was a cloudless sky and about 80 degrees, we were sunscreened and sweating- unbelieveable! Even in August the weather never got this hot. The park is so large (almost three times the size of Central Park in NYC) that we will have to go back repeatedly, as we were only able to see part of the lake and a playground, where we had a picnic. 

There are many places like this that we are eager to see, on the edge of town or within an hour of the city by train. For now playing tourist is a challenge, a balancing act between Rachel’s frequent naps, sketchy weather forecasts, Joseph’s mood, and parental energy levels. I hope to soon visit the town of Giverny, where Claude Monet lived and painted his water lilies series. But this week I’ll be satisfied with just seeing the paintings at the Orangerie at the edge of Jardin des Tuileries.

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Fashionably Unfashionable

May 22, 2009 · 1 Comment

by Danielle

A few friends have asked if I find the French people to be very chic and fashionable. This is a tough call to make. A reminder: our neighborhood consists of many working class Chinese, Arabs and Africans, so you’re not going to see anyone looking like they walked out of Vogue magazine. You’ll see plenty of chadors and headscarves and dashikis but not Guccis and Puccis.

But aside from the international crowd…. Even in Belleville many people (well, younger women at least) seem to have a little something special going on with their style. It’s not a classic style per se, but simply a willingness to show total disregard for what flatters.  This sounds bad but I don’t mean it that way. It’s pretty spunky. To not care if you look ten pounds heavier than you are takes a lot of confidence. I should point out that while there are much fewer obese people here, there are plenty with spare tires and a little junk in the trunk.

Clothes-wise I see a lot of creative layering that I don’t see in the US. Long tops over short skirts, handkerchief hems, loose cut cotton tunic-style tops, leggings. Scarves, either silk or pashmina knockoffs, are on everyone even the men. Shoes are very often black Converse Chuck Taylor All Stars (never the hightop version), or well worn black boots.

It looks like all the French girls shop at H&M (or NafNaf), but I am in on their secret. Just around the corner is rue du Faubourg de Temple, three blocks of clothes and shoes that look like they fell off a truck. Everything is 5-25 euros and looks like an H&M knockoff. This means no natural materials in sight and questionable quality. But it’s packed with teens and twenty-somethings on the weekends who look more chic than I ever was at that age. 

I read that French women don’t own a lot of clothes, they buy quality not quantity, and only what is an absolutely perfect complement to their exisiting wardrobes. I can neither confirm nor deny this claim, but I suspect that if it’s true it’s only because Parisian closets are TINY. No walk-ins here. If you were fortunate enough to have a walk-in closet, it would be converted into a bedroom before you could say “mon dieu!”

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Blue Sky

May 22, 2009 · Leave a Comment

by Danielle

Today is the first day I can recall when the sky was bright clear blue. It’s glorious. I’ve not been too fond of the weather here, it’s more gray than I imagined and generally a lot colder than I like. Needless to say, Dan thinks the weather is great! But when you have two kids, a small apartment and no car, it’s ideal to have nice weather so you can enjoy whatever slice of mother nature you can find.

After Rachel took a whopper nap this morning (while Joseph was at garderie) I packed her up and took a 12 minute bus ride to the Marais. This area was home to many French aristrocrats in the 16th century, two of which we have visited (Carnavalet Museum and Hotel Soubise). Currently it’s a popular shopping area with narrow streets and lots of charm. I intended to revisit Place des Vosges but the tourists were out in full force so I pressed on.

I ended up on rue de Rosiers which was (is?) the heart of the Jewish community. Here there are many kosher delis and every little cafe or restaurant has a Jewish star in the window. It’s a pretty touristy spot too, but I couldn’t help but buy a big yummy veggie falafel sandwich which everyone seemed to have in hand. Hmm, I thought they were Egyptian… But no matter, where ever they are from, they are delicious.   

On the way home I plotted my route so I would stop by Picard (the frozen food store) to stock up for the weekend. In typical French fashion, the store was closed for four days (!) due to inventory. Some might think, “Isn’t it great that they don’t feel the pressure to stay open and cater to mass consumerism?” But I say, “Don’t they know it’s the only place I can find bagels?” Picard: zero, 24-hour Harris Teeter: 10.

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Heavenly Holiday

May 21, 2009 · 2 Comments

by Danielle

It seems like every time you turn around there is another holiday in France for something I’ve never heard of. Today it’s Ascension Day, supposedly the last appearance of Jesus after his resurrection on Easter Sunday.  I think it’s great that the French get lots of holidays, it’s one of the reasons we are attracted to the European way of life.  But I’ve come to realize that in some ways it’s less than ideal.

One reason is that the majority of the vacation time is dictated to happen at specific holidays and the months of July and August when many businesses close shop. If there’s one thing I hate, it’s taking vacation with the masses. It seems like people don’t really go away “off season” very much. I could be wrong but that’s just my perception thus far. Also, since  everyone is taking vacation at the same time,  if you want to take a trip you have to book places waaay in advance. Just try to go on vrbo.com (apartment rentals) and book a vacation for southern France in July or August, and you’ll find every decent option blocked out a year in advance.

Because of the holiday Joseph did not have garderie, and when I asked him what he wanted to do he said, “take a train and see a museum.” Awesome! Off we went to my favorite museum, the Pompidou Center. Many French people think it’s a horrible eyesore but I love it. Not only is it a cool building with great collection of contemporary artwork, but on the practical side it’s just a few metro stops away at Rambuteau (which has stroller-friendly escalators, a rarity). Best of all there is a children’s room on the ground floor. 

It was my first time taking both children on the metro by myself, something that is only possible now because we’ve been making Joseph walk a lot more instead of being stroller dependent which was so limiting.  I was pleased to discover that it was quite manageable. When we got off the metro we made a pit stop for snacks (crepe and gauffres) at the playful fountain to the south of the museum that is filled with colorful water-shooting sculptures. Then we played in the discovery room which was filled with activities related to the “Alexander Calder: the Paris Years” exhibit, which focuses on his wire sculptures and in particular his circus toys.  Then back home in time for lunch and Rachel’s naptime.

I’m scratching my head trying to recall anything new and noteworthy, and the only thing that comes to mind is a “girls night out” I had last Friday. I met up with Jessica (from New Zealand), Sarsha (from Australia) and Romy (from Washington state) for a yummy dinner and drinks down the street. It was a nice mix of people, Romy and Jessica have lived in France for about a decade and love it, while Sarsha and I have been here nearly a year but are not quite convinced of its fabulousness.  When we left the restaurant (after midnight) the streets and cafes were alive with people… and when I returned home I could hear Rachel’s crying from the sidewalk. Ah, motherhood.

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Opera

May 14, 2009 · 1 Comment

by Danielle

Having houseguests was a reminder that there is plenty of sightseeing I have yet to do in Paris. Today I decided to get to it. Rachel and I visited the Opera Garnier, a stunner of an opera house completed in 1875. I had originally planned to see a dance or opera there, but then realized I could take a self guided tour for a fraction of the price. 4 euros (with pole-emploi reduction), instead of 40-200 euros for a performance. 

It’s lavishly decorated in the Beaux Arts style, with ornate statuary, marble, freizes, gold leaf, velvet, bronze and so on. There are grand halls and also intimate corridors. I wish my photos had turned out but unfortunately the lighting was very dim, probably to protect the artwork.  

We were able to go into private “box seating” and look into the theatre which is often inaccessible during the day due to rehersals. What a surprise, on the ceiling around the central chandelier was a very joyful Marc Chagall painting. On one hand I liked it, but also felt it was more than a little out of place given the baroque style of all the other paintings on display (which lean toward the nymph-and-cherub variety). I later read that the Chagall caused a big controversey when it was installed in 1964 for that very reason. Do I get points for that or something?

If the weather had been nicer we would have drifted over towards Place Vendome, a very swanky area which houses some of Paris’ most luxurious hotels and jewelry stores. But alas it was pouring rain so we beat a hasty retreat towards home.

A sidenote- I hate to go on about medical issues but I can’t help but be shocked and delighted at the prices of services and I suspect my American friends might find it interesting… This afternoon I had xrays (dental and sinus) for 30 euros, and a teeth cleaning (lighting fast and lightning painful) for 8 euros. I’m starting to think up what services I might need before the french government changes their minds about my coverage!

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Shanghai

May 12, 2009 · 2 Comments

By Dan

Other than sleeping, I can’t think of a better way to spend the 12 hours on Air France Flight 111 from Shanghai to Paris than writing a blog post.  I’m returning from my first ever trip to Asia and still feeling like the first impressions are pretty fresh in my head.

So the trip started ten days ago – very late the night of May 1.  I was at CDG airport in Paris boarding the plane when my cell phone buzzed with a text message from Danielle:  “1st 3 cases of swine flu reported in paris.”  I had been nervous about leaving her alone with the kids with the hysteria about the global pandemic peaking at that point (we were calling it “Hamageddon.”)  But I took solace in the fact that it hadn’t reached Europe yet when I left, or so I thought.  Anyway it was too late to turn back.  

When you fly east in the summer, taking off at midnight, you barely get any night.  It seemed like it had only been dark an hour or two when the sun started to come up.  From my window seat I watched sunrise over very pretty countryside, and saw a huge city with a massive winding river that stretched on as far as I could see.   The video display on the seat in front of me showed that we were flying over Moscow, and I guess that was the Volga River below us.  I had never been farther east than Moscow in my life until that point. 

We arrived Sunday afternoon and after checking in to our hotel took a cab to meet my friend Derek who had arrived earlier in the day and was staying at a nice hotel downtown.  I was travelling with Carlos (aka Old Carlos, or Brazilian Carlos – though German/Brazilian Carlos is more accurate) from my program.  The core of my social circle this past week was Derek, Old Carlos, Blake, and New Carlos (aka Mexican Carlos.)  The trip included seven other students who I know well from my program, and seven who I didn’t know well but grew to like from our sister campus in Casablanca. 

Bike and mopeds everywhere. Bamboo scaffolding. Laundry hanging from telephone and power lines.

Six of us gathered that first night and wandered out for dinner in downtown Shanghai, ending up at a big restaurant with a long menu with lots of pictures.  We ordered everything that caught our eye.  Almost every meal in China that week turned out to be like the one we had that night:  tons of dishes, maybe ten or twenty, with each meal.  Surprisingly little rice, if any.  The dishes are brought out in waves and put on a lazy susan, and you grab a couple bitefuls as it passes by and drop them on a small plate in front of you.  Some dishes are straightforward, not unlike what I’ve had in Chinese restaurants in the U.S. and France.  Others I still don’t know what they were.

In general they make use of the whole animal in China – I saw the cooked heads of lots of animals this week.  That first night I ate whole duck tongue, and beef cartilage, and some delicious spicy crab.  Later in the week some of the more noteworthy things I tried were beef tongue – which was great – and chicken heart – which wasn’t.  We ordered several beers that first night, and when they arrived we discovered that each bottle was 22 oz.  I had been up for 30+ hours at that point, and that pretty much put me under.  Dinner, and in fact everything that week, was incredibly cheap.  Many of the higher-end meals – multiple courses and lots of drinks – were about $15 or $20 per person.  Lots of meals were much less.

Derek's room with a view

Heading back to the hotel that first night, massively sleep-deprived, the cab cut through a narrow underpass where a cement truck was entering from the other side.  We slowed to let the truck pass through first, and as it entered the passageway the top of the truck scraped and then got stuck right in the middle of the underpass.  We skirted around it as debris and chunks of cement fell to the ground.

In our seminars, and in general during the week, a constant theme was how developed China is.  I went there thinking I was visiting a developing country, but Shanghai (which leads the country in many ways) appears to already have arrived.  I felt safe the entire time I was there.  The roads were well-maintained.  The city was remarkably clean – much more so than Paris.  There are normal stores, a very clean and efficient and navigable metro system, taxis everywhere, good food, and extraordinarily nice people (also much more so than Paris.) 

Tabs on soda can lids - something I hadnt seen since 1993 when I was in Russia.

Tabs on soda can lids - something I hadn't seen since 1993 when I was in Russia.

The roads and traffic infrastructure, however, have grown at a much faster pace than the level of driver education.  I think I finally figured out the main rule that guides their driving philosophy:  if a bike or pedestrian or car is in your way, rather than try to slip in behind or in front or around it, drive straight towards it and assume it will be gone by the time you get there.  I was pretty sure I’d get in an accident at some point, and figured it would be an opportunity to witness the Chinese health care system first time.  We were all surprised when we survived the entire week without an accident.

So we got back to the hotel in one piece that first night and the hotel courtyard had an amazing smell that I would not have expected to find in a city of 20 million people.  It was a beautiful night and I was told the smell was orange flower – it smelled sort of like jasmine to me. 

In the hotel room I collapsed into bed and realized that I had made a huge mistake in not feeling the bed before falling into it.  It was literally as hard as a board, like sleeping on a wood floor that had a soft comforter or carpet on it.  I ended up sleeping pretty well though after a couple nights of adjusting to the time difference.  While the food was pretty good all week, breakfast had some unpleasant surprises.  There were eggs that looked like they were hardboiled

Antique Market

Antique Market

but they were black and I didn’t touch them.  There was some root that looked a little like ginger, twisted up and nasty, not remotely appetizing in the morning.  I ended up having leftover greasy noodles every morning, which was ok but got old by the end of the week.

The week was packed full of seminars, gatherings with alumni from our sister school in Shanghai, and company visits and tours – most with an alumni connection.  A few were dull but most were extremely interesting and enjoyable.  In between, and in my two free days, we explored lots of neighborhoods, ate at lots of different types of restaurants, and hit many of the sites in the guidebooks.  My favorite sites were the Urban Planning Museum, the Jade Buddha Temple, the Shikumen Open House Museum, and the Yuyuan Gardens.  Favorite non-Chinese restaurants were Japanese (so good we went twice,) Malaysian, and Brazilian.  I saw plans for the world expo coming to Shanghai in 2010 (the first world expo in a developing country,) saw pearls removed from an oyster, got tours of a textile factory, a pharmaceutical factory, a car parts factory, saw kitchen knives being made, bought two custom-fitted suits for less than $100, and saw how houses have been renovated in the French concession.

Of the eight companies we visited, seven appeared to be doing very well financially despite what I have read in the papers about China suffering from the economic downturn.  Most have seen sales increase in 2008 and 2009, though at a slightly slower rate.  Most western companies we saw came to China primarily to sell to the Chinese market, not to take advantage of the cheap labor and export products back.  Exports do appear to be flat, or down, but domestic sales continue to grow at an impressive rate and outweigh the export losses.

On Thursday and Friday we went to Suzhou, a very nice city an hour away from Shanghai.  It feels like a small city, “only” six million people, and is home to two massive industrial parks where we visited several companies.  More than 100 of the Fortune 500 have offices or factories in Suzhou.

The highlight of Suzhou for me was the massage place next to our hotel.  Massages in China are amazing:  generally less than $10 for a full hour massage. Several friends got massages in Shanghai – because of my numerous back and joint problems that have gotten a lot worse this year I was worried about getting a massage from someone with whom I couldn’t communicate.  This place had a foot massage option and I figured that sounded relaxing and relatively safe on my back.  Blake and Derek went in for the full massage while New Carlos and I opted for the foot massage and were led into a small room together with huge comfortable chairs, a big TV, and subdued lighting.

We turned off the TV when the two masseuses entered the room, and one of them picked up the remote and turned it back on to a loud MTV-like station that entertaining but far from relaxing.  They brought in two buckets of hot water, took of our shoes and socks and plunged our feet into them.  It was scalding hot, incredibly painful, and the only thing that kept me from yelling was that Carlos was in the room and he wasn’t screaming so I tried to keep my cool.  They didn’t speak any English and understanding where we were supposed to sit or stand or position ourselves was tough.  While our feet were soaking, or burning, they gave us neck and back massages which in my case was just intense pinching and poking but not very therapeutic.

The foot massage itself lasted about 45 minutes.  She started by trying to pull each toe off my foot one by one.  When she couldn’t pull one off, she’d move to the next one.  After that, she started karate-chopping my calves and ankles, I figured she was trying to loosen them up to pull my whole foot off.  The she moved on to my feet, pounding and twisting and mutilating them.  I really didn’t think I would be walking out of there under my own power.  However by the end I had pretty much succumbed and was sort of enjoying it.  I walked out in a daze and ran into four girls from my program who were standing at the reception area looking at the menu of different massages.  One of them, Carmel, took one look at my glossed-over face and said “I want what he had!” 

The next day my feet felt fine but my back and arm were killing me.  Carmel reported being so bruised in her next and shoulders that she was in pain the next day and had to take painkillers.  One other friend was uncomfortably sore; several others said they loved it.

Afterword

So that was written mostly on the plane on the way back.  I am now back in Paris, one day later, typing up the blog post and enjoying family time.  I didn’t quite finish all I experienced and all the anecdotes that keep popping into my head, but this post has gotten long enough.

It is great to be back.  I felt bad missing Rachel’s first birthday, and Mothers Day.  We had a little celebration for Rachel when I got back and I slept very soundly last night and feel pretty human.  Anyway it looks like Danielle has gotten serious again about the blogging and I have some reading to catch up on.

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Birthday Girl

May 9, 2009 · 4 Comments

by Danielle

Rachel decided to kick off her birthday festivities by waking at 3am and not falling back asleep until 8am.  Something like this hasn’t happened in a long time and I suspect it was related to vaccines she had the other day. But it was especially unfortunate since it was the last night’s stay for our houseguests and they were kept up half the night too.

Dan is in Shanghi for another day so I decided to hold off on giving Rachel her gifts until he arrives.  Her most  noteworthy milestones are; “cruising” around the room by holding furniture, climbing up onto things, and this morning she stood unassisted for a few seconds. She still has only four teeth and smiles a lot. She waves her hands especially when she hears “hello”  “goodbye” “bonjour” and “au revoir.” She seems much more social than Joseph was at her age, loves attention, responds to music by clapping and squealing, and is very vocal and not afraid to protest if you do something she doesn’t like. Most people ask if she is a boy, even if she is wearing pink. Her eyes have remained blue although we can’t think of anyone in the family with blue eyes (I was certain they’d turn green).

Well, now the Crumbley’s have been gone about 30 minutes, and Joseph has just started asking where they went, and said, “I want to go back to Washington.”

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More Visitors… Could YOU be next?

May 7, 2009 · 1 Comment

by Danielle

Just a few days after Dan and my mother left Paris, our good friends from Alexandria, VA arrived for a short visit. Kit and Alexis lived across the street from us in Del Ray and our first children were born two weeks apart… so Alexis and I feel like we have been through real life altering experiences together. Like soldiers in battle!

I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to see good friends and catch up. It makes me a little homesick naturally, to think about the wonderful people we’ve left behind.  As we watched our guests walk up to the gate outside our building for the first time, Joseph asked “Where’s Susan?” (their daughter who was his little buddy for so long).  But alas this was their first trip away from their two adorable kids, who remained at home with their grandmother. I have to admit I admire and envy their ability to get away on their own, it’s hard to imagine a scenario when Dan and I could do this. I was a little worried that the visit would get Joseph on one of his kicks of “When can we go home to Washington?” or “I want to go back to Joseph’s house,” which totally tear me up inside. But so far this has not happened.

Yesterday was fantastic. I hired a babysitter and while Kit visited the Louvre, Alexis and I got to do a little widow shopping at Printemps department store. We had a long leisurely lunch, which naturally included a great therapy session for both of us.

Today they have spent the day touring the Normandy beaches, leaving me to the fun task of visiting my first French dentist. Although my sinus infection is on the mend I still have pain in my molars. I’ve been lucky to have excellent dental health all my life so I am pained to think that my luck is about to change. And to deal with such issues with a language barrier is less than ideal. Wish me luck.

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Sick

May 4, 2009 · 1 Comment

by Danielle

The last few days have been brutal. Dan left for Shanghi for a 10 day trip, Mom returned home, so I was already emotionally bruised. But then what had been a week long garden variety cold escalated into a wicked sinus infection. On Sunday my whole head was throbbing in pain, my sinuses ached to the point of giving me a toothache, and my ears were killing me.

This afternoon I was able to visit the medical center around the corner (they take drop ins), it was my first time using my “carte vitale” which is the french medical insurance card. Now that we’re in the system I don’t have to pay full costs of medical care. So my doctor’s appointment was only 15 euros (instead of -get this- 24 euros) and the four prescriptions I got only cost me 14 euros (as opposed to a mere 30). The doctor I got spoke some English, not a lot, so we made do with broken Frenglish. He even gave me a referral for a CAT scan which I believe is long overdue, so I was grateful.

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Mom’s visit

May 4, 2009 · 1 Comment

by Danielle

My mother just left after visiting for two wonderful weeks. We had a great time despite the weather being a little spotty. Due to either babysitters, or dear Dan, we were able to get out on our own which reminded me of old times when we would have lunch and go to an art exhibit.

Highlights included:

Musee Jacquemart Andre – a stunning former residence of wealthy art collectors. The collection included works by Flemish masters, 18th center French masterpieces and Italian renaissance works. Included a special exhibit of Italian “Primitives” from the 13-15th century.

Pompidou Center – Vassily Kandinsky retrospective, a nice treat because I thought I didn’t like his work, but turns out I do!

Musee du Moyen Age – located in a combination of former Roman baths, and the historic Hotel de Cluny (Abbey residences).  The medieval art collection in cluded stained glass, scuplture, painting, woodwork, jewelry

Les Art Decoratifs – Art Deco jewelry show. Very cool! A few pieces I wish they sold in CZ in the gift shop.

At home it was heartwarming to see Mom and the kids interact. Joseph in particular was delighted by her and loved playing together, even requesting her to read stories at bedtime. It was interesting to note that althought he was a little timid to speak French around her, ever since she left Joseph has been speaking in French non-stop, even saying things I didn’t know he knew and a few things I can’t quite make out. At times he will speak gibberish but with a French accent. He seems to know what he’s saying though!

Also amusing was to see mom, a real Parisian, complain about the things that make me really crazy about France. “Why on earth would the grocery stores be closed on Sunday? You have to admit it’s ridiculous!” and so on. She has always been (and is) so French, but I realize now that she is quite Americanized, and prefers the convenience of (what I consider to be) true civilization.
But of course a country will grow on you if you’ve been there about 40 years I guess.

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